Hi, my name is Leslie and I am a CONTROL FREAK.

I am.  I think that’s the first step to recovery… admittance.  I am a total control freak, and I wonder if most teachers are.  Yesterday it hit me full force… literally… I slapped my forehead.  I couldn’t believe how much of a control freak I have been.  Now don’t get me wrong, there are definite advantages to my controlling side, but lately I have noticed the faults.

Too bad I cant make a nice graphic organizer on my blog.  I’d totally make a Venn diagram organizing the advantages and disadvantages of my control freak side.  That’s pretty psycho I must say… organizing it… ugh…. lol…

I started wondering why am I like this?  Why do I get SO FRUSTRATED when my expectations are not met?  I have found that in the past 2 years, I have been given much to be responsible for; thus having to control things to make sure my responsibilities are met. 

โ€œWith great power comes great responsibility.โ€ 
-Stan Les’s Spiderman
When someone has been given much, he has much power and much will be required in return; and when someone has been entrusted with much, even more will be required. 

I don’t know about you… but I don’t know anything more powerful than given the responsibility of shaping young minds, guiding their character, and instilling values you hope and pray they will carry on throughout their lives

Spring has sprung in my school and my classroom, and as much as I have been awaiting this wonderful season, it also means that my students go craaaaazy.  This process causes their teacher to pull the reins on her controlling ways.   I’ve got to learn to let things go.  The main lesson in the classroom is that the students are engaged in their learning, and they ARE LEARNING.  Not me stifling their creativity and telling them HOW I would do it.  It’s so hard to relinquish control especially when I want things done a certain way.  
I mean I have EVERYTHING labeled in my room.  I have set to the routine so soundly.  I do not detour from the structure of my classroom (at least I try to avoid it as much as possible.) However lately, I have thought, as nice as it is to have a plan in place for each and everything imaginable, I am not in control. PERIOD.    Only God is.  
So when my plan is deviated, and my students see my face of frustration (especially if I have planned forever), they witness a person who can’t handle losing control.  That is not the person I want to be.  I want them to see someone who is prepared and organized, but knows how to roll with the punches.  It’s hard to do that graciously.  
So as I breathe over my spring break, and rejuvenate, I will be praying for GRACE to be in me.  For me to give kindness, love and not flying off the handle (like I tend to do) at my students when things don’t go just the way I want, would be such a great testimony to my Christian faith.  It’s so hard sometimes.  To extend grace is definitely not my first thought…it’s AAAGHHH!!! Why cant you just do what I told you to do the first 3 times I said it!!!!  I wonder if that is how God looked at the Israelites in the Old Testament, or how Jesus looks at me sometimes.  But I am pretty sure He just smiles and shakes His head and laughs at my antics, and sends His Spirit to me to say, “Now Leslie.  Is that really how you want to handle this situation? These kids are God’s children too.”
Yep.  How can I get frustrated so easily with His creations?  It’s hard to remember that too.  It is not my first thought either…more like thought 127…. not good….
I know this is a constant growing process for me.  God’s plan for me has always seemed to revolve around the concept of me giving up control and trusting Him completely.  So easy to say, so difficult to do for a control freak like myself.  But the first step is admittance.  Now onto step 2. 

3 thoughts on “Hi, my name is Leslie and I am a CONTROL FREAK.

  1. I am a control freak as well and have absolutely no control over it. No your not as much as a control freak as me which is most likely not true! Your probably thinking ya right. However my life is practically notebooks of list(on how something get's done) if the list is not followed I get angry. When I was 11 years old my mom found out I had O.C.D~Obsessive Compulsive Disorder,A.D.D/ A.D.H.D so you might be ocd as well I would highly suggest go seeing a doctor to make it official. I don't think that just because you like to have a good grasp on lots of things means your a control freak! You should go check it out. What made you decide you were a control freak? Most people never know unless there tested for it. Do you like being yourself? As you say a "control freak"?
    Well any way NO ONE'S PERFECT! So it's all good.
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  2. Well hello Choleric/Melancholy! I read your blog and thought one thing…you have to read Personality Plus by Florence Littauer. It is an amazing book (about 200 pages) that will change your life! I know exactly how you feel about admitting to our "weaknesses", which if you are a Choleric you won't see them that way lol. I am a Sanguine/Choleric/Melancholy – if you read the book that will make more sense ๐Ÿ™‚ – but I too suffer from having the "my way is the only way" attitude. I have tamed my ways and use the force for good now haha. I think this book really helped me see that the way I am, is the way God intended me to be. We all are a mix and combination of the temperaments, and once we understand and accept that, we will appreciate each other's and our "quirks" that make us, us!

    Have a great day (and I hope this helps)

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